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    1/18/2007

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    This morning I got on the shuttle and the song from Dirty Dancing was playing. Not "She's Like the Wind" but the other one, it's some permutation of "I've Had The Time Of My Life." it could've had parentheses, it could be just a few words, but that's not the point. you know the song, so just move on already! Criminy. Anyway, I heard that song as I got on the shuttle and thought "this is going to be a GRRREAT day!" well, it's only ok, bordering on bleh. My pal Strawberry Stompcake is doing well and her injury was not as bad as she thought so she'll be at practice tonight, likely sitting on the sidelines with me since I'm taking it super easy. It's funny, when I was in school I did whatever it took to avoid PE class, sometimes exaggerating injuries. Now I'm voluntarily participating in an athletic endeavour and I'm downplaying my injuries to myself, thank you, in order to participate. I decided there's a happy medium and I don't need to push myself. Sitting out a few practices is better than getting a permanent injury and never being able to skate again.

    So, I get an email from a good friend. She had a discussion with someone who made a comment that made her feel unattractive and unpersonable. Now, I won't name names, but believe me when I tell you that she's one of the prettiest and most fun people I know so this dude is stupid, but that's not the point. But the point is that what's more important, personality or looks? Because there's a sampler my mom created that says "Kissin Wears Out, Cookin Don't" which means physical attraction isn't everything. Sure, it's a big component, and without a little physical attraction you aren't goin anywheres, but at some point you've got to talk to the person.

    I think I've podcasted about this before but why is it you see good lookin girls with less attractive guys but you rarely see good lookin guys with less attractive girls? I can think of an exception or two, but that's it--just one or two. I think it all comes down to primal nature: women want a good provider for the family, men want pretty babies to show off.

    Or maybe it's because womerns tend to live longer. Hell if I know. All I know is I need to decide what I want for lunch.

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    posted by Leah at 1/18/2007 11:31:00 AM

    4 Comments:

    Blogger Brent said...

    So where do GLBTQs fit into this theory of yours?

    10:18 AM  
    Blogger Leah said...

    don't know...never thought about that. I haven't really observed the glbt relationship dynamic that much. you tell me, cowboy!

    6:42 PM  
    Anonymous Samantha said...

    I just heard an R&B cover of "She's Like the Wind" on the ol' XM today:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/She%27s_Like_the_Wind

    It wasn't half bad.

    9:46 PM  
    Blogger Brent said...

    Yeehaw!

    So there's some social psych research you may be familiar with that suggests we tend to feel attracted to people who we view as about as attractive as we perceive ourselves to be. I have to say this is more along the lines of what I've observed among gay men who are coupled.

    But there's also the whole stereotype that gay men have more sexual partners than the population average, which I suppose one could argue is compatible with your observation (in the sense that you're getting at evolutionary theory of mate selection--though I haven't read up on this, or where gay men would fit in that scheme).

    1:20 PM  

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